Archive for year: 2020

THE WORLD GRIEVED ON THIS DAY 9/11/2001

A day that left a lasting imprint on the world and humankind. Suddenly one morning the world lost its sense of safety. 9/11 caused immediate grief for the families and friends that were directly affected.  Even if you did not personally know someone that was tragically lost, or anyone that lost their life trying to save them, you still probably experienced a level of grief. We all experienced a loss of safety, a loss of trust, and more importantly, a loss of innocence.

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss, but our socialization and what we are taught is to shy away from grief and recovery, as if talking about them would somehow make things worse. As a result, we are shocked when we don’t know how to deal with our emotional reactions to loss events. We are all affected whether we knew someone or not.  The memories of those events can trigger in us feelings about our loved ones who are no longer here. Sometimes those reminders send us forward in fear for our own safety or that of our loved ones. The events that we see and hear about in the news affect us all. These fears are planted in our minds, which then affect our emotions. If we hear about them, they will affect us.

Loss is inevitable and the grief that must accompany it. Some events have direct and immediate impact on us and those in our family or communities.  Other events are reminders of losses from our pasts. Sometimes larger than life events in the news trigger our emotions for humankind. In all cases, we must learn to deal with our feelings as they occur. Loss is constant and we need more effective ideas and actions for dealing with grief.  Starting with acquiring more awareness about reaction to loss and what to do about it. The good news is that The Grief Recovery Method is an evidence based program. Research has shown that The Grief Recovery Method is effective. It is the only Grief Support Program that has received this notoriety.

I hope you feel urged and encouraged to reach out to me today to discuss more about this program. You can call me directly at 484-764-7094.

Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in, a familiar pattern of behavior.

How has your life and familiar patterns changed over the past months? Pandemic, Social Movements, and Weather patterns that have affected us all. All of this causes so much uncertainty about how our lives are, and could continue to change. When do things go back to normal? Or better yet, will they ever?

The thought of that is pretty scary right?

Not only are we adapting to changes in our community, but you may be facing the decision to have your young one(s) by your side learning how to adapt to school from home. This changes the pattern or possibility of getting back to your daily routine.  For some, that uncertainty about work schedules and who is going to be responsible for learning how to school their child(ren) from home, or if there is a split school schedule, home for a few days and then in school for a few days, creates an unknown factor. How do you coordinate all of those pieces?  The list goes on and on leaving some feeling like there is no end in sight. All of this fits the definition of Grief, as I mentioned in the very opening line.

So now that we know what Grief is, how can someone tell if they’re grieving? Here are a few questions to ask yourself.

•             Are you having a hard time concentrating?
•             Is it tough to fall or stay asleep?
•             Are you eating more often or eating way less?
•             Are you eating more sugar, dessert or snack foods?
•             Do you lack energy?
•             Are your emotions all over the place?
•             Is it hard to stay in the moment?
•             Do you go in one room to get something then forget why you went there?
•             Do you feel isolated and are having a hard time adjusting?
•             Are you arguing with your spouse?
•             Are you trying to avoid your feelings by using Short Term Energy Relieving Behaviors like drinking, binge watching TV or scrolling on social media for hours?

If you don’t know how to deal with your feelings, there is nothing wrong with you. You, just like myself and many others before you, were never taught how! No one sits you down when you’re ten years old to explain how to deal with the normal emotional pain you’ll experience in life. In fact, sometimes as a child your feelings get discounted. All we know is what we see other people in our society do, and much of what they do won’t help you recover from grief.

Now it is time to shine some light, the good news is there is hope. Grief, much like the majority of things in our life can be handled and dealt with. There is a solution, there is a way and hope. You and I will work closely together on an evidence based program that has proven to be effective. Join me and the countless before you on beginning a path to a new restored hope.

You can call me, email me, direct message me, or fill out a form on my website. Anyway that you feel most comfortable doing, I will respond back to you. I am waiting to hear from you.

These days it seems as if grief is a hockey puck and we are the goalie. Do you have the right tools and equipment to stop the shots that are coming your way? Consider me a goalie coach that also once played the game and faced shots myself. I can help you, guide you, and direct you to ensure that you have the right equipment and knowledge to not only make that big save, but to “win the game” which ultimately is rediscovering yourself! For more, reach out today www.JenniferGriefRecovery.com – I would be glad to schedule a FREE 20 minute session.

What’s Holding You Back From Happiness?

“The Key To Recovery From Grief is Action Not Time”

Our thoughts about people, circumstances and events in our lives produce our emotional responses to them.  We have practiced our beliefs over a lifetime and we have become very loyal to them making them “Right”.

We can get stuck on our rightness and lose sight of what we are really seeking and that is to Be Happy.  Our rightness may be hindering our ability to recover from significant losses.  Many of the beliefs that we were taught about dealing with losses are incorrect and unhelpful. But after practicing them for a lifetime, they can seem to be very “Right”!

For example, we are all taught that Time Heals All Wounds.   But time does not complete anything that is emotionally incomplete in our relationship with the significant losses in our life.  If we believe with conviction that time is going to heal our emotional wounds, we are destined to wait forever.

It may be time to examine some of your beliefs about recovery from significant emotional loss.  How you cope with and process feelings caused by loss is a result of what you believe.  It’s important for you to have effective beliefs that can lead you towards Happiness, rather than Stuck In Rightness.

Take Action Now Towards Your Happiness. 84-764-7094 or www.JenniferGriefRecovery.com