Are you experiencing unresolved grief?
Is your life forever changed after loss? Yes! You don’t need anyone to tell you your heart is broken. You know it!
After significant loss your eating patterns may change drastically, whether that is eating too much, or you completely lose your appetite. You may find it hard to concentrate or focus on simple tasks. You may find it hard to sleep or sleep more than usual. Your chest may feel tight or like your heart sunk into your stomach.
As time goes by, these experiences may lessen and over time you may return to your normal routines, but that doesn’t mean that you have recovered from the loss.
Unresolved grief is cumulative and cumulatively negative. It affects current and future relationships.
Here are some indicators that you are experiencing unresolved grief.
Do you refuse to talk about the loss?
Do you avoid thinking about your loved one who died because the memories are painful?
Do you avoid places or events that remind you of someone who died?
Do you only talk about their positives, refusing to admit they might have had some negative qualities too?
Do you keep the same exact routines you did when they were still alive because you’re afraid you’ll forget them?
Do you avoid getting close to people? Unresolved grief is usually at the root of fear about any new relationships.
There’s nothing wrong with grieving, but you don’t have to live the rest of your life in pain.
Imagine thinking of someone who died or an ex, without feeling brokenhearted. Imagine living and loving to the fullest. What would that be like for you?