There is Hope

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I hear quite often that you never stop grieving or that you can never get over a particular kind of loss. Have you heard this too?

What’s so sad about these phrases is that they keep you trapped in pain. I am not saying that your life won’t be changed by a tragic, brutal, or heartbreaking event, but to tell yourself and other people who are looking for a way out that their grief will never end keeps you, and them, a victim.

I am instead giving you HOPE! It is called: The Grief Recovery Method.

It’s different from traditional grief support. One big difference is that we don’t separate people by the type of loss they have experienced. This process helps everyone, no matter why their heart is broken. That probably sounds wildly different because most grief support programs focus on the type of loss.

Even if two people experienced the same type of loss, they still wouldn’t have the exact same experiences because all relationships are unique. For example, 2 sisters lose their mother and you would think that they would be experiencing the same type of loss, right? Well, those two sisters are still individual people. One might have had a great relationship with their mother while the other relationship was more complicated. To compare one person’s loss to another’s, regardless of the cause or the type of loss, discounts, minimizes or trivializes their feelings or experience.

We at The Grief Recovery Institute found that focusing on the type of loss puts the focus in the wrong place. Of course, the type of loss is important because it’s why someone’s heart is broken, but we also focus on how to help people. The Grief Recovery Method is a universal proven program and solution that will work for anyone that is willing to do the work. What also is so unique about The Grief Recovery Method is that the program has a start and an end. Many traditional grief support groups offer a safe environment for a griever to talk about their feelings, but talking only provides short-term relief. Talking about your feelings can be beneficial, but it’s not enough. The Grief Recovery Method is designed to guide your emotional pain through a series of actions to feel better. Of course, you can choose to continue working to heal other relationships, but we have a system that is proven to work. So, there is no need to see me indefinitely.

Overcoming Grief

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Loss is all around us and is a part of life that none of us are immune to. So often it’s misunderstood what grief and grieving is, and sometimes it’s the belief that grief will somehow go away with time. For all of you who have the experience of major significant losses, you know that’s not true. You are forever changed from loss.

 

Maybe you have just lost a loved one to death. Maybe you just got divorced. Maybe a long-term romantic relationship just ended. Maybe you lost your job.  Maybe you were delivered an unfavorable health diagnosis. These are all experiences of loss and the reality of living life. We will all be confronted by loss and the darkness of the unknown.

 

You can’t go over, under, or around grief, you must go through it! Unfortunately our earliest teaching tells us: DON’T FEEL BAD, DON’T BURDEN OTHERS with your feelings. Trying to use these few incorrect ideas, we develop a belief that suggests we shouldn’t feel bad in the first place.

If we’re taught not to feel bad when feeling bad is the normal and natural reaction to a grief-producing event, that idea makes it almost impossible for us to access healthy guidance to go through grief, rather than trying to bypass it by going over, under, or around it.

The first thing we must do if we want to deal with our grief effectively, is to allow our grief to exist by acknowledging it, and by communicating openly about it to people with whom we feel safe.

Please know that grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. The range of reactions and emotions in response to grief-producing events is as wide as there are people on the planet. You may often hear that “Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace.” and I agree.

But experiencing grief, even in our own way and at our own pace, is not the only issue. For example, when someone important to us dies, or when we get divorced, we are always left with some things we wish had been DIFFERENT, BETTER, OR MORE; and with some UNREALIZED HOPES, DREAMS, AND EXPECTATIONS about the future.

These six words are the keywords that can help you discover what was left emotionally incomplete for you as the result of a death, a divorce, or any other loss. These unfinished or incomplete things is what is referred to as Unresolved Grief.

The hardest part about overcoming grief is that we are taught that it is too difficult. The actions of the Grief Recovery Method that help grieving people deal with their unresolved grief is available to anyone who is willing to take those actions. They are relatively easy to do, even though we might think that they are hard because we were never taught they exist, or how to do them, and because we may have believed the myth that grief is permanent and recovery is impossible.

Take the step to action in your recovery & you’ll discover for yourself that overcoming grief is possible.

 

Have you ever attempted to pour from an empty cup?

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Well, if you ever have attempted to pour from an empty cup, the result comes real quick. As we all know you simply cannot pour from an empty cup. Yet why do we continue to forget this simple and easy analogy when it comes to our life or our feelings? We give that all too well known answer of “Everything is fine, I’m ok.” Or we stuff our feelings deep inside. Or maybe we have something that is trying to escape but for whatever reason the fear of the unknown holds us back from being able to “refill our cup” or allowing us to live, breath, and feel again.

If we remain empty, we cannot expect to be happy. Sadly, an empty cup has nothing to give. But that is not you, that is not who or what you are! We need to find a way to grieve, and to properly grieve. I can provide you with a known method that can provide solutions and answers through a program on how you can grieve in a healthy way. I will walk this road with you helping and guiding you.

You still have far too much to give, so let’s begin the process of refilling your cup!

Contact me today by calling (484) 764-7094, by submitting a form https://jennifergriefrecovery.com/contact/ or by direct messaging me right here on Facebook. I will get back to you as soon as I am able!