Could you be grieving and not know it?

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How could someone be grieving and not even know it?  It’s easy because our society uses a lot of different words to describe what could simply be grief. We hear words, or terms such as:

  • Stress
  • PTSD
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling “Off”

Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to loss of any kind.

  • If you’re sad about a break up then your feelings surrounding it are grief.
  • If you’ve lost a job then your feelings surrounding it are grief.
  • If you’ve experienced a loss of health then your feelings surrounding it are grief.

Another definition of grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.

Have you ever moved or changed jobs? Although you might have been thrilled about the new environment, you might also have felt sad about leaving your friends, co-workers, routines and everything else you were used to. Those conflicting emotions are grief.

Think about your last break up or when someone you know died. Do you remember wishing you could have them back just one more time? When we grieve, we grieve the loss of unmet hopes, dreams and expectations we had about the relationship.

My message to you is please know that grief might be the reason you don’t feel fully present in your relationships, it might be why you have felt “off” since you experienced a change in your life, and it might be why you think there’s something “wrong” with you.

The Grief Recovery Method is a series of actions that lead to recovery from, or completion of loss. I am an Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist I encourage you to reach out to me so we can begin this recovery process.