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Grief is not just about death!

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Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to any change in your familiar behavior patterns.

Think about all the different changes that may be affecting your life. A change in an ongoing relationship, a move, a change in employment, a change in health – these are just a very few of the many things that can trigger a grief response. While you may not recognize or think of these as grieving experiences, it doesn’t mean that they cannot cause you emotional pain.

Grief can be very overwhelming! We spend a lifetime learning how to acquire things, but no one ever really teaches us what to do when it comes to losing them. The vast majority of information we’ve learned on how to deal with loss is in fact “misinformation,” and offers very little help on an emotional level.

Grief is emotional, not intellectual. So often family and friends will give us logical reasons as to why we shouldn’t feel sad. The problem is that grievers have broken hearts, not broken heads. Those logical reasons rarely help you to feel any better. How often have you heard the statement “time heals all wounds” and “grief just takes time.” Time is not a factor in any way throughout your recovery from a loss. Time just goes by and allows you to become accustomed to feeling that emotional pain. It is what you do with that time that matters when it comes to moving forward with your life.

Don’t be surprised if you see something that reminds you of a fond memory of your loved one and then find yourself suddenly sad over any number of other things. Your ongoing grief will remind you of things you might have wished had been different, better, or more in your relationship. Those tears may be a sign that you have “unfinished business” in your relationship that you need to address. That is where you might find working with me and using the action plan in The Grief Recovery Method helpful. While you may continue to miss the physical presence of that relationship, you can greatly reduce the level of emotional pain that prevents you from enjoying your fond memories.

I look forward to the possibility of working with you soon!

Do you battle GRIEF itself?

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Did you know that there are over 43 losses that may cause Grief?  Here is a list of just some ways Grief can enter in our life:

  • Death
  • Moving
  • Loss of Pet
  • Retirement
  • Divorce
  • Finances
  • Health
  • Legal Problems
  • Ending Addiction
  • Job
  • Children leaving home

Grief does not have stages; it cannot be categorized.  Grief is normal and natural, it’s not a condition or disorder. Many times, Grief gets mislabeled as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, ADHD, depression, and many other pathological conditions.

A misdiagnosis will often lead to a mistreatment.  Leaving you possibly feeling like a pinball bouncing off bumpers, trying various medications, most of which will only get in the way of allowing you to FEEL and recover from grieving.

Recovering from any type of significant emotional loss is not easy.  Taking the correct actions that put you on the path of healing will require your attention, an open mind, courage, and willingness!

I am ready to begin with you when you are.