Some Grief Does Not Need Fixing
💛 Reflection #2
For many years, I believed healing meant finding a way to fix what hurt.
If I could understand it enough, solve it enough, work on it enough, perhaps the pain would finally disappear.
But lately, I’ve been discovering something different.
Some grief does not need fixing.
Some grief simply needs understanding.
There are experiences in life that leave a lasting imprint on us:
– the loss of a loved one,
– a difficult childhood,
– a relationship that changed us,
– a dream that never came to be.
Often, our first instinct is to ask:
How do I get over this?
But sometimes a more helpful question is:
What is this grief trying to show me?
I’ve learned that understanding and fixing are not the same thing.
When we stop fighting our grief and begin listening to it, we often discover that underneath the sadness is something that simply wants to be acknowledged.
Not erased.
Not rushed.
Not solved.
Just understood.
And sometimes that understanding creates more healing than all the fixing we ever tried to do.
